Social media is your cupid

There are ways you can find love on social media, but there are flaws.

If someone told me they met their significant other from Facebook or Twitter, I wouldn’t even be surprised.

Social media has changed the way we communicate and even date. Online dating sites, such as OKCupid or, use to be the primary engine for how individuals met one another. There’s a new method to the madness, and we’re a Snapchat away for meeting our “soul mate.”

There are some good and bad when you meet someone from a social networking site as Facebook. You’re provided with enough information on the person to get a sense of their character, way of living, and personality. However, the bad, of course, is you can’t tell whether this image is authentic. I know when I want to get a sense of how a person is, I do tend to rely on their social media behavior to appropriate my search. So I’m checking their Instagram pictures, I’m seeing their Twitter feed, or I’m looking up some of the things they talk about on Facebook with their peers. These social media accounts has made it almost impossible for us not to get a sense of how a person may be.

Catfish-ing has been another formality to why people are steering against meeting through social media. It seems to be a widely popular phenomenon to be someone else in order to catch someone’s attention. But you can’t let the fear of a potential catfish ruin your chances for love, because no one is meeting in traditional settings. People are utilizing social media to engage and establish genuine friendships. This is most certainly true for those who have busy lives and can only be available through social means before meeting up in person.

Relationship expert, Siggy Flicker, says that social media has to go hand and hand with social dating. “You cannot get caught up in someone’s picture,” she says. “Chemistry is a mystery. It’s something that cannot be defined.” You can’t allow social media sites to do the dating for you because you’re going to set yourself up for disappointment.

If you’re gunning for mystery, you might not want to meet someone on Facebook. “Facebook stalking,” as psychologist McCann calls it, has reduced uncertainty for going into relationships. You can learn something about a person that you may wish you never wished you came across. However, it does help to know the most you can about a person before going on a date – or just meeting up in person. You’re going to learn it eventually, so why not.

Regardless if you meet someone from a social media site or an online dating site, you’ll eventually want an in-person interaction. Traditional dating methods haven’t changed that much. We still rely heavily on physical dates to formulate some sort of trust with an individual we’re interested in. I could get into how social media (such as Facebook) has ruined relationships, but that’s a whole different discussion for a later blog.

Follow Social Media University on Facebook. Deontae Moore is a Marketing & Digital Media Manager at Public Narrative, follow him on Twitter @deontaemoore.

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